Friday 25 March 2016

Profit and Loss 2016



Sutter Country                 5/2          3/1                     1st +3.00
Boater                              7/4          4/6                     1st + 3.67
Rapricity Alexander        13/2        5/1                     3rd + 2.67
New Trier                         5/4         5/1                      UP +1.67
The Last Lion                  11/10      4/5 R4                1st  +2.62
Rusamaat                          5/2         7/2                      UP  +1.62
Pivot Point                        8/1         16/1                    UP  +0.62
Sterling Silva                    7/4         7/4                      1st  + 2.38
Rajar                                 5/1          3/1                     2nd +1.38
Poets Society                    5/2          7/1                     UP  +0.38
Another Angel                  3/1          6/4                     3rd  -0.62
Sutter County                   8/13         4/9                    1st    0.00
Jollydee                            3/1           3/1                     3rd  -1.00
Zumran                             14/1        15/8                   UP   -2.00
Benidiction                       6/1          7/1                     UP   -3.00
Asfaar                               7/4          11/4                   UP    -4.00
Valentino Boy                   6/1          10/1                   2nd   -5.00
Dusker                               5/4          11/4                   UP    -6.00
Fastnet Spin                      10/1         4/1                    1st     +4.00
Raffle King                       4/1           9/4                    3rd   +3.00
Seafront                            11/8          evs                   1st    + 4.38
Dark Hero                         9/2           5/1                    UP    +3.38
Il Sicario                           10/3         6/1                    UP    +2.38
Shadow Wing                   6/1            3/1                    UP   +1.38
Roseland                           5/2                                     3rd   +0.38
Copper Knight                  11/8                                   2nd    -0.62
Danielsflyer                       5/4                                    2nd    -1.62
Krebs Cycle                       5/4           10/11                1st     -0.37
Nile Empress                     3/1            2/1                   UP     -1.37
Kananee                             7/4           7/4                    1st     +0.38
Create A Dream                 3/1           5/1                    1st     +5.38
Zumran                               9/4           5/2                    UP    +4.38
Tap Tap Boom                    3/1                                    2nd    +3.38
Kodi Da Capo                    13/2          8/1                    2nd    +2.38
Chotto                                7/1                                     UP     +1.38
Eid Rose                             11/2          8/1                    3rd    +0.38
Kahrab                                3/1           13/2                   UP   -0.62
Lawless Louis                     5/4           10/11                 UP    -1.62
Another Angel                     4/1           5/2                     UP   -2.62
Hakeem                                8/1          9/2                     2nd   -3.62
Stormy Clouds                     8/13        1/3                     1st     -3.00
Twizzel                                8/1           4/1                     1st    +5.00
Mutahaady                                                                     UP    +4.00
Clem Fandago                     5/4           4/6                     1st     +5.25
Tomily                                 8/13         2/7                     1st     +5.80
Copper Knight                    9/4            11/4                   1st     +8.55
Full Intention                      7/2                                      UP    +7.55
Rapacity Alexander            4/1            6/4                     2nd    +6.55
Her Terms                           4/1            8/1                     UP    +5.55
Katrine                                2/1            4/1                     1st    +9.55
Reach High                         evs            4/5                     1st    +10.55
Tibr                                     9/2            13/8                    1st    +15.05
Monks Stand                      5/4             4/7                     3rd    +14.05
Valentino Boy                     evs                                                +13.05
Whiteley                             7/1            7/2                                +12.05
Dontoforgettocall                13/8         11/8                              +11.05
Boater                                  2/1                                       2nd   +10.05
Our Boy                               9/1            14/1                    3rd    +9.05
Barrington                            4/1            5/1                      UP    +8.05
Arabian Hope                       3/1            2/1                      UP    +7.05
Kahrab                                  8/1                                       UP    +6.05
Dubai Knights                      7/1                                       3rd    +5.05
Global Applause                  10/11         4/6                      2nd   +4.05
Norwegian Highness            6/1            9/2                      UP    +3.05
Top Score                             7/4            4/6                       1st    +4.80
Eids Rose                              13/2          12/1                    UP     +3.80
Mr Sunshine                          8/15          8/13                    1st     +4.42
Rusaamat                               11/8          6/5                       1st    +5.79
Jules in The Crown                 6/1                                       1st    +11.79        
Legendary Lunch                   4/5                                       2nd    +10.79
Reign On                                15/8          3/1                      1st     +13.79
Zamjar                                    7/2                                       3rd    +12.79
Hakam                                    8/11          1/16                    1st     +13.29
Belles Angel                           8/1                                       UP     +12.29
Magical Forest                        11/10                                   2nd    +11.29
Dalton                                     5/2            5/2                      3rd     +10.29
Nuclear Power                          5/1                                       UP     +9.29
Afandem                                 8/11                                      2nd    +8.29
Bithynia                                  11/4                                      3rd     +7.29
Eva Gore                                 7/2                                        UP     +6.29
Peachey Carneham                  15/8          7/2                       2nd    +5.29
Hope Against Hope                 5/4                                        2nd    +4.29
Red Savina                              10/1          25/1                     UP     +3.29
Devilish Guest                         5/2            5/4                      UP     +2.29
Tomily                                     4/11          2/5                       1st     +2.69
Romantic View                        6/4            11/8                     1st     +4.19
Aventinus                                 10/1          20/1                     UP    +3.19
Silver Line                               6/4            6/5                       1st     + 4.39
Medici Banchiere                     evs                                       1st     +5.39
Equity                                      7/2             9/4                      UP     +4.39
Girlofinkandstars                     16/1          10/1                     UP     +3.39
Dubai Knights                         11/8           11/8                     2nd    +2.39
Diable D'or                              7/2                                         2nd    +1.39
Jock Talk                                 12/1           20/1                     UP     +0.39
Kodiac Khan                            3/1                                         3rd    -0.61
Northern Thunder                   13/8            13/8                     2nd    -1.61
Nasimi                                     7/2                                          1st     +0.67
Poets Society                           9/4              7/4                       1st     +2.91
Global Applause                      6/1              9/2                       1st    +8.91
Monks Stand                            6/5             2/5                        1st    +10.11
Mokarris                                  11/2            11/4                      1st    +14.27
Dream of Dreams                    9/4              2/1                        1st    +17.52
Orewa                                      6/1                                           3rd   +16.52
Zambezi Queen                       10/1                                         UP    +15.52
Leontes                                    7/1              5/1                        UP   +14.52
Berkshire Boy                          15/2                                        UP    +13.52
Peachey Carneham                  8/15                                                 +12.52
Boater                                      5/2                                                    +11.52
The Last Lion                                                                                   +10.52
Rosebride                                 9/2              10/1                      2nd  +9.52
Mary Brady                              4/1              7/1                        UP   +8.52
Groupie                                     5/2              7/2                        1st   +12.02
Liberatum                                 7/2                                           UP   +11.02
Thunder Snow                          4/1               4/1                       1st    +15.02
Rodaini                                      5/2              5/6                       1st    +17.52
Naafer                                       5/6               2/5                       2nd   +16.52
Cheval Blanche                        5/1               4/1                       1st     +21.52
Zamjar                                      5/2               15/8                     2nd    +20.52
Kamra                                       5/2               10/11                   UP     +19.52
Parlance                                     2/1              7/2                        UP    +18.52
Shamsaya                                  10/3             7/2                        1st    +22.02
Inglorious                                  7/2                                            UP     +21.02
Boost                                          3/1              4/7                        3rd    +20.02
Dalton                                        2/1                                            UP    +19.02
Haulani                                      14/1             11/4                      2nd   +18.02
Queen Kindly                            5/4               2/5                        1st    +19.27
Rebel De Lope                          6/1               14/1                      3rd    +18.27
Apamura                                    9/4                                                     +17.27
Kodaline                                    6/1               4/7                        2nd   +16.27
Tibr                                            3/1                                            UP    +15.27
Another Angel                          10/1              7/2                        2nd   +14.27
Tahoo                                         4/1                                            UP    +13.27
Champagne Queen                     6/1              10/3                      UP    +12.27
Dubai Elegance                          11/8            3/1                         3rd   +11.27
Peachey Carnham                      5/6               2/1                        UP   +10.27
Masham Star                              8/13             2/5                        1st    +10.88
Bin Battuta                                 7/4               6/4                        1st    +12.63
Teofonic                                     5/2               7/4                        1st    +15.13

                          
                  
                                                              

Monday 14 March 2016

business plan


                                                       

I pledge to give Laura regular and in depth updates, including photos, at all times when Campbell is in my care. She will be able to call me as often as she likes during the visits and i will arrange times for Facetime and Skype for her to see Campbell during those visits

I am willing to put Elliott in as a middle name as soon as the 3 visits a week begin

                                                                     Visitation Plan

WC 11th April                            2 x 4 Hour visits : 1 Hour in house + 3 Hours outside          
       18th April

WC 25th April                            1 x 8 Hour visit : 1 Hour in house + 7 Hours outside
        2nd May                              1 x 4 Hour visit : 1 Hour in house + 3 Hours outside
        9th May
        16th May

WC 23rd May                            1 Overnight Stay in Southampton
        30th May                            Thursday 12pm-Friday 12pm
        6th June                                  
        13th June                            1 x 3 Hour visit : 1 Hour in house + 2 Hours outside
        20th June
        27th June
        4th July
        11th July

WC 18th July                              2 Overnight stays on consecutive days
        25th July                              Thursday + Friday
        1st August
        8th August
        15th August
        22nd August                    
        29th August
        5th September
        12th September
        19th September                   Campbell turns one
        26th September

 WC 3rd October                        3 Overnight Stays on consecutive days      
        10th October                       Wednesday - Friday
        17th October
        24th October
        31st October
        7th November
        14th November
        21st November
        28th November
        5th December
        12th December
        19th December
        26th December
     
WC  2nd January 2017               3 Overnight stays alternating with
                                                    4 Overnight stays [ie 50/50 care]







Saturday 5 March 2016


Since we last went to mediation i have attempted to build bridges with Laura and her family as i know the current situation is of benefit to no one. I offered to have a meeting with her parents and her in their family home, noting to her father that we haven't once sat down and discussed the situation once since the saga began. And i wrote a genuine heartfelt email to Laura, in which i referenced the great 5 years we spent together and admitted my previous mistakes regarding spiky emails etc, and how i am ready to leave the anger behind and move forward. Both were ignored, her dad simply confirming the date of next weeks meeting [i went through her dad and said i will stay the full 2 hours] and Laura simply not responding at all [although as she admitted last week her dad vets her emails so perhaps she didn't see it

i have been trying to get into Laura's mindset and to try and understand why she would be so against me and Campbell having a relationship and i came to two conclusions

1- Laura believes herself to be entitled to be Campbells one and only protector having gave up the following for him when she left and went to her parents when he was 2 weeks old

her husband
her home
her job
her friends
in essence her current lifestyle

she believes that having essentially given all that up for him she has earned the right, that she is entitled to behave in the way she is currently doing and that her prize for such a selfless act is total control of Campbell. I would like to impress on her that it isn't a selfless act at all, yet a most selfish one as she continues to deprive Campbell of his father and an extended family that love him unconditionally

Lauras parents constant reassurance [which she admitted she craves and needs] of what a great mother she is only strengthening her belief thats she is the only one capable of caring for him and is building further walls between me and her and therefore me and Campbell. With every passing week of me not seeing him will only harden her resolve on this matter

this leads on to my second point, she has invested too much. Having given up the aforementioned things she has created a life in which Campbell is all dominating. The thought of giving him up 50% of the time or even as little as one night a week, cannot be comprehended as it would leave an unimaginable void in her life. She has created an existence where he is everything and any time parted from him absolutely petrifies her. She doesn't see me as worthy of being involved and created such a hole in here life

This has lead to her to putting herself on a pedestal way above me in relation to Campbell and has cultivated her current attitude of refusing to engage with me at all. I just need to her to be aware that her reasons and feelings towards me cannot continue to harm the relationship between me and Campbell



I genuinely believe we can make progress in mediation, it just concerns me whether we will have adequate time before we end up back in court. I think engaging Laura in a discussion with considered the points made above will be a move forward in our progression

Both SPIP and your notes mention how important communication is and for whatever reason that communication is not forthcoming from Laura's end. If we can begin to communicate like adults i am certain the situation will rapidly improve and hopefully result in us not going to court

Thanks for taking the time to read of my concerns and i hope it will help the situation. I am already looking forward to next wednesday and am positive we can progress and make plans for the future having vented our anger about previous events

Many thanks
Calum